Friday, May 18, 2007

graduate gift?

Sunday, we'll do the transition ritual created by Mikelson & Agate, at First Parish, Cambridge, this Sunday--erasers for those entering kindergarten, because everyone makes mistakes; mirrors for those entering middle school, as a time of identity formation and "fitting in"; and compasses for those entering high school, so, with their new autonomy, they can still find their way back to us. Love that ritual.

For the two graduating high-schoolers (absent a bridging ceremony, which I hope for next year), the usual Quest subscription and an introduction to the church nearest their college *assumes* that they'll go to college. Even if they do, I don't want that assumption to be ritualized. A gift certificate to a locally-owned bookstore? UU jewelry? A chalice of their own? Other suggestions?


At 8:47 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hi Chip,

I'm at the First Parish in Cambridge and I love that ritual too. Even though I am well past high school graduation, the erasers, mirrors, and compasses still ring true.

It is very important to help those graduating seniors connect with UU communities in their next life stage, whether they are moving away or staying near home. How about offering them each a membership in the Church of the Younger Fellowship, an online community for young adults?

In addition, I hope you will continue to help them connect with a real-world UU congregation if they are moving, whether the move is for college or for other pursuits. Those young people who are moving would appreciate a helping hand in making the transition. Of course this doesn't have to be part of the public ritual, and they might even prefer having a private conversation with you about where they are going and how they can connect with a UU community there.

At 10:21 AM, Blogger Chip said...

Shelby, that is a great idea. Of course, the CYF membership is perfect. Thank you for your fine suggestion, and blessings on your path, wherever it takes you!

At 10:39 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Maybe include some packs of Ramen noodles, too. ;-)

At 5:02 PM, Blogger Earthbound Spirit said...

I like the CYF membership idea, but something tangible is nice, too.

My home congregation gifts graduating seniors with small chalices. These are made locally by a potter and have the church logo on them. In the service the graduates are invited to light the candles for their chalices from our chalice, and to take the light with them as they move forward in their lives. It's a tangible reminder of a spiritual home, and the close friendships made there, whatever their futures include.


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